When Jackie goes to TJ and says ‘’I feel as though you don’t want to see me or have anything to do with me’’ and the reply is ‘ don’t over think it’. Followed up with a week of being too busy, lies about plans, and dismissive, heartless comments. The proof is all there. She didn’t over think it. And it was intentional hurt on his part.
That’s what Jackie was told. She replied ‘ i know this’. And yeah maybe that’s true, but it’s also true that it doesn’t give TJ a pass on divorcing himself from having any role in it.
And so if her feelings are her responsibility then by the same token his inability to be honest, empathetic and other assorted toxic behavior. are not her problems. He is toxic. It shows in every single aspect of his life. She has unlimited examples of it. She has heard every single persons remarks about something that is off about him. She has made equally the same number of excuses to people on his behalf.
His problems can not become hers to try to get him to see. His lack of s of awareness and depth can not bleed into her life . His toxicity and selfishness can not be allowed to take away her shine.
She is just one more casualty in his life.
Why did she put up with this? Because she was comfortable with it. She lived this with her sister. She loved this with her father. She lived this with her mother. She didn’t know better.
She has the ability to become whole again. Because she is aware now. His problems can no longer bleed into her life. Their problems can no longer bleed into her life.
Declaration: She is a woman capable of loving and expressing her feelings kindly. She is a woman capable of understanding her feelings.
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